Dating apps keep helping the liberation of women’s sexual desire. In our days, women are expected to express their sexual needs just as much as men. Indeed, having different sexual partners for both genders is widely tolerated. Nevertheless, having sex too soon with a man is still controversial. But, what means the expression ‘having sex too soon’? Does the timing matter in a relationship? Is sleeping with a guy on the first date something to absolutely avoid? And what if it happens, what should you do? Before we try to find a way out because you think that you gave yourself too quickly. Here are the reasons why you should not sleep on the first date.
Get to know him, first
On a first date, you should focus on getting to know the guy. I bet you don’t want to discover two weeks after you both had sex that he’s married or in fact, bisexual. Passion does not keep a man. And after three years of just sex, lust disappears. Sleeping right away on the first date is one of the best way to ruin a relationship before it even starts.
Moreover, sex is not the greatest intimacy that you can get from a man, communication is. Communication is a skill that you must develop in your future relationship. Learn how to communicate with your significant other. If you do so, you will understand him better. The more you will work on the foundations of your relationship which are: trust, communication and support, and the more your couple will be stronger. According to me, it’s a shame to look for a serious relationship but having sex on the first date. Do not make the mistake to treat your potential boyfriend as a one-night-stand because he may behave like one.
Be sure of what you need
As grown women, we are supposed to differentiate what we want from what we need. What we need is what we want but the opposite is not true. Do you need sex on the first date or do you just want it? Don’t lie to yourself, you know yourself better than I do. Stop repeating the same mistakes over and over again. There is nothing worse for a man than spending the night with a girl and then get a text message from her saying that she regrets everything.
Sex is a decision not an obligation. Do not have sex if you are not ready. Men are not like us. They have to invest themselves (emotionally and financially) into a girl to love her. They don’t settle for ‘potential’. So be irreplaceable from the beginning. The ugly truth that no one tells you about sex on the first date is that it is a desperate move.
A man will always have respect for a girl who refuses herself to him. But, he will definitely lose interest in a girl who is not able to do so. Take accountability for your actions, to blame the guy or alcohol… Sex is irreversible, there is no coming back.
Know you why
Sex is a men’s game. If you do not play by the rules you will lose. Stop wasting your vagina and your holy juice on unavailable emotional men.
Follow these donts:
- Don’t try to sexually compete your his sexs.
- Do not use sex as a way to put pressure on a man who, you knew from the start, that he didn’t want something serious.
- Avoid using your vagina as a weapon to be in a relationship.
- Reducing yourself to a sexual object will not help you get the guy.
I am sure we are all guilty of it, who did not make these mistakes, at least, once? The experience of millions of women speaks louder than the lies to tell yourself. With that being said, when a guy wants no string attached, the last you want to do is opening your legs. If you sleep with him on the first date, how dare you ask for more? At this point, it’s pure madness or just human nature if he does not call you back.
Like I always say, a woman has to learn a very young age how to say ‘no’ and a man how to take rejection. These qualities are fundamental in dating. Most of times, when a man is physically attracted to you he will try to sleep you on the first date. It’s not a sign of rudeness but a way for him to show him that he likes you. Nevertheless, if a man feels rejected by you becaue you say no, be careful of his behaviour.
The reason why you should not sleep on the first date is because you want to make sure that you are not dating a crazy guy. A boy who is not able to control his frustration. By saying ‘no’ you can easily get what are his real intentions towards you. Did he come the cookie or for you?
A real man can enjoy spending the night with a woman without having sex if even he is not used to it.
Always choose the man, not the animal.