How to manage your sexfriend situationship

A sexfriend is actually a pun. Listen, it’s not acceptable to have sex with friends. So having a sexfriend has nothing to do with having no boundaries. Don’t you ever turn a friendship into a sexfriend situationship. A sexfriend is someone for who you only have sexual interests. Which means that you two are not supposed to talk about anything personal or emotional. Nothing compare to an actual friendship. I prefer to call it a ‘situationship’ because you have to deal with it and respecting all the procedures.

FIND SOMEONE NEW TO BE SEXUALLY OPENED TO

First, use dating apps to find the perfect sexfriend for you. Before sleeping together, you should establish clear rules for your new sexual partner. It is important that you know exactly what you want so you don’t end up getting what you didn’t want.  Everyone has its own vision of sex and pleasure. So, start by asking questions about one’s sexual vision to see if your needs can be met. Explore one’s sexual past. Having a sexfriend consists in talking freely about everything that comes to your mind. Open up to each other about your sexual preferences and the things that you would like to try. Describe precisely how you like and how you want to be treated in the bedroom. Make sure that one knows what type of sex you like so there’s no surprise. Try to be curious as much as possible to connect sexually with your sexfriend. The more you will put efforts into knowing your sexfriend and the more you will be able to picture the fun that you two could have…or not. 

#1.Listen to yourself and respect your intuition

During the conversation, listen carefully to your gut. If you feel like your needs can not be met then don’t get into this situationship. If you feel like the potential sexfriend has a vision of sex that is despicable for yourself, don’t get into it. Finally, if you feel like there is something wrong, again,  do not get into it. From now, listening to yourself is your new mantra! By the way, just because you are sexually opened it does not mean that the condom is still negotiable…  Moreover, set the rules by interrogating what are your sexfriend’s intentions. Having a sexfriend is not about providing emotional supply. So make sure that your sexfriend does not want love but just sex! If you talk about sex but the potential sexfriend talk about emotional past, just end up the conversation. What are each other’s limits? How you guys going to reach out to each other? Can your sexfriend call you? Text you? I am just asking because you could be married or in a relationship while reading this post… Please, think about everything because no surprise’s allowed. 

SEX IS NOT THAT EASY

Having a broken heart is not a disease so sex is not a cure. Don’t put yourself into something that you are not ready for because it will damage you severely. Having a sexfriend is more about a mindset rather than a relationship. Sexual encounters are about pleasure, not emotional needs. So, make sure that you do need something else but sex. When you have a sexfriend, your emotions have to be under control. Don’t lie to yourself thinking that you have power over this kind of situation when you know damn well that you don’t. This situationship is not made for everyone and that’s okay! It actually requires a lot of self-control. If you want to jump into it, you will have to separate your heart from your body. Otherwise, it will be emotionally painful. A real sexfriend situationship is not glamourous, it looks nothing like in the movies.

#2. You can’t have a relationship with your sexfriend

This part is going to be a little a bit touchy for you. Sorry but I am not going to apologize. I am going to repeat myself. You can not have a relationship with your sexfriend. Like I said previously, the point to this is no strings attached. So, if you don’t want to develop emotional reactions then you have to consider it as a transaction. Having a sexfriend can be very tricky especially if you are the type of person who uses sex as an emotional medicine. Whatever is going on in your life, it shouldn’t impact your sexfriend in anyways. Keep your problems and needs to your friends, your real ones. Girl, you better stay focused! You two are not dating so there is no ‘let’s know each other better’. If you feel like you are sexually being used it’s only because you are… It is the whole point of this. And just because you feel used, it does not mean that you should expect more. The sexual transaction is part of the contract. If you don’t want it anymore then just break up but please don’t ask for ‘more’.

#3. It is all about dick appointments, the rest is fake

When you meet your sexfriend, it’s all about sex. Usually, a good friend with benefits is able to give you the illusion of dating. Every time you see him, the date is fine and exciting. As a result, you may think that he likes you but he doesn’t. He is just doing his best to make you feel comfortable enough so the sex can be easier and better. The truth is that everything starts and ends in the bedroom, the rest is purely fake, an illusion, a lie. Sometimes, even his attitude is fake, he may appear nice, smart or generous but trust me, he is not boyfriend material. The ‘dating illusion’ he gives you is just another reason why you should come back to him. With that being said, don’t you ever make the mistake to get attached just because the dick is too good… Girl, I see you!

#4. If you start to be more emotional around him than horny

GAME OVER! Most of the times, there is always someone who ends up wanting or needing more. If that happens, that’s okay. Having a sexfriend is not for everyone. At the end of the day, we are all human beings. We can all neglecting our emotional needs but not for the long run. If that happens to you, you have to let the other person know. You don’t have to explain everything but you must end this situationship. The quicker to put an end to it the better it will be for both of you. Do not secretly fancy the dream of developing a romantic relationship. Life is not a Hollywood movie, keep your head cold.

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Thank you for reading this post, I really appreciate it. I am Leslie, a young French girl very passionate about love and relationships. With you, I share on my posts my thought these topics. I also have a podcast called The Private Zone where I share my intimacy. As a blogger, I value your time and the efforts that you guys put on commenting on my posts. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

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This article contains (explicit) adult material.

2 Commentaires

  1. Riley Stephanie
    26 juin 2020 / 19 h 44 min

    Darn, content like this makes waking upwards
    worth the time and effort! Reading in during sex today I got so motivated I actually decided to work out.
    Thanks to literally making my life much better.

    • SHEGOTNEWS
      Auteur
      26 juin 2020 / 20 h 39 min

      Hi you. Do you have suggestions to make my life better? 🙂 I’m glad that you found the motivation to work out.

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